Monday, November 23, 2009

We all have one and they probably broke your heart.

"We all have the potential to fall in love a thousand times in our lifetime. It's easy. The first girl I ever loved was someone I knew in sixth grade. Her name was Missy; we talked about horses. The last girl I love will be someone I haven't even met yet, probably. They all count. But there are certain people you love who do something else; they define how you classify what love is supposed to feel like. These are the most important people in your life, and you’ll meet maybe four or five of these people over the span of 80 years. But there’s still one more tier to all this; there is always one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of these loveable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable. The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they’re often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really, want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else."

From Killing Yourself to Live by Chuck Klosterman


Joanna said...

Frightening just how true this is.

peterdewolf said...

Your text about this book makes even more sense to me now.

meredith said...

megan, have you read "the history of love" by nicole krauss? if not, go buy it and read it as soon as you have a chance. trust me.

Michael said...

God, I love Klosterman so much. Gorgeous excerpt, and oh so very true.